Essential Counseling: A new take on stress management


“There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it’s going to be a butterfly” - Sarah Margaret Fuller

We are in the midst of a consciousness revolution. The changes are magnificent, despite the growing pains so many of us are experiencing along the way. We are leaving behind the old paradigms that no longer serve us. The fearful and tuned out ways, where we just try to make it through the day, are rapidly becoming outmoded. Emotional suppression and the world of appearances will not rule the coming times, as we learn to be the presence and joy that are our birthright.

Essential Counseling is here to guide and support throughout these times of transformation.

A unique therapuetic approach designed to realign us with the deep contentment or our true essence. We all have a small self, which we might call egoic, petty, and wounded. Yet, we all have our higher self as well, which we might call connected, confident, or perhaps our true self. We call this higher, deeper, self our essence, and in the counseling work we do we help you to find the path home; to living from your essential self.


When we live our essence, we are inspired, vibrant, and peaceful. From this place we don’t seek external factors to bring us happiness because we are the happiness. So many who seem to “have it all” are plagued with chronic unhappiness, while so many who might seem to have so little actually live in true contentment. We have found that prioritizing inner wellness amounts to getting out of our own way so that we can let our gifts, talents, and potentials manifest easily.

Essential Counseling features:

Excavation of our True Selves

So many of us were criticized and taught not to be angry, not to cry, not to be unpleasant, difficult, not to ask too many questions, or be loud as children. While this was often well-intended by caregivers, all too often we reach adulthood with a weak and suppressed sense of self. Without access to our true selves, we certainly cannot get in touch with our own dreams, guidance, and potential.

“All I can do is be me, whoever that is” - Bob Dylan

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world" - Mahatma Ghandi

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

We offer coaching, support, and guidance, teaching you how to become your own greatest advocate.

Many of us are practically experts at criticizing ourselves for perceived shortcomings and inadequacies. We teach transformation of these painful habits of the mind into self-acceptance and self-advocacy.

“When you hide your flaws, you teach us to hide ours. We are just waiting for one teacher, just one, to give us permission to be who we are now” - Byron Katie

Shadow Work and Ego Watch

When we are “in our egos” and unaware of our shadows, we tend to live with a high level of stress and suffering. We can learn to transform the place within that keeps us feeling separate and insecure. We can learn how to come out of the judging mind and move into the more loving and expansive space of the heart.

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them (and if we judge ourselves, we have no time to love ourselves!) - Mother Teresa

“the esoteric meaning of the ancient art of alchemy:the transmutation of base metal into gold, of suffering into consciousness” - Eckhart Tolle

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” - Rumi

“I love everybody. Each one plays the role they have to play.” - Meher Baba

Empowerment Practice

This can include forgiveness work, boundary clarification, and assertiveness coaching.

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission” - Mahatma Ghandi

“You’ve got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down.” - Ray Bradbury

Deliberate Creation

Once we have done some of the excavation and clearing, we can work with our minds and hearts to create and assert an inspired life of connection, purpose, and joy.

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so” - William Shakespeare

“One must dare to be happy” - Gertrude Stein

“the important thing is not to think too much but to love much; and so do that which best stirs you to love” - St Teresa de Avila

Here are some of the challenges that respond well to essential counseling:

Clients working with essential counseling over time tend to feel more optimistic, confident, empowered, and joyous.

All counseling sessions are available via telephone.